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There’s been stress, guilt and hair pulling lately, all to make decisions and plan a way for Mom to be happy and safe.
The path, we as a family have chosen is the best. She’s back to her Rehabilitation Place temporarily until its permanent.
She doesn’t know it yet, we have advised the staff not to discuss for the sake of Mom remaining calm.
The family is visiting and making her as happy as she can be in her state of mind. But, as the doctor said she’s very nice as long as strangers are about, when family is mentioned she gets angry, suspicious and spiteful. Go figure!?
I have had a busy month having to assist in paperwork and transition of Mom’s new home. My family has taken a breather and there’s smiles, not anger and overwhelming feeling of not able to cope.
I would like to tank you all, for the support , kind words and encouragement you have given.
Forever grateful
Namaste
Elisabet 
I’m so glad you made this choice. Sometimes it’s the most loving thing we can do for all involved. The fact that the doctor says your mom is nice while in care shows that it’s good for her too. People and the relationships they form are all different, so there are few reliable “rules.” That’s part of the reason why this process is so hard, and why you must trust your instincts, and be at peace with your decisions. Breathe deep and smile.
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Looks like your Mom is being well taken care of. Praying for peace for you all.
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Thank you for all your compassion.
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Blessings!
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After following your travails with your Mom these last few months, I think that you have made the wisest decision. You sounded like you were at the end of your rope. Take good care.
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I hope this provides you all with much-needed relief
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Thank you.
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A good decision for both sides. Breathe and keep smiling!
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Will do, thanks.
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I can’t imagine the angst concern care determination depth of love it would take to deal with the current situation. By pulling together, your family is closer and hopefully “mom” will understand that you care and it’s for her! Difficult to say how she perceives things because age, health, concern and strangers can make life feel strange and uncomfortable. Change probably isn’t easy for her at this stage. Knowing you care and love her must be there somewhere. It’s important to take care of you as well. Otherwise you have nothing left to give to anyone else. Wishing you all the best now and in the future!
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Than you so mych for your kind and wonderful words.
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Indeed, your welcome 🙂 It’s very true. Heartbreakingly difficult time I imagine.
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Hope she gets taken care of well!
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She is. Thank you😇
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This is never easy but needs to be done. My mom is now very content and happy in her care home but it took a little while.The staff are incredible, angels really. Wishing you and your family all the best.
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Thank you Darlene, glad your mom is doing well xx Elisabet
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This is a path we are walking right now. We are having to suddenly become experts in all kinds of areas alien to us -until now. It’s probably as well that we can’t look into the future. We would never have seen dementia on the horizon. Sending love and strength to you. x
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Your words comfort me Karen xx
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I’m am so pleased to hear that. Sending a hug to you and wishing you all the best. I care. Xxxx
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xx💐
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Isn’t it crazy that our loved one always strike out at family….there’s an old saying that comes to mind….your always hurt the one you love…..why I am not sure, but I am guessing they feel deep down inside that family will always forgive and understand the frustration of life…My mother always striked out at me….no matter the situation, I claim its because I was the baby of the family and a brat when I was little….payback perhaps…LOL glad the family came together to make a very difficult decision together…I used to visit mom, however she always told me I could go, I didn’t need to babysit her, so many times I sat across the room and just enjoyed watching her interact with others….xxkat
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Thank you for sharing, I think the attention they receive at home makes them worst, whereas amongst strangers, they are forced to exert their mind and behave themselves. Elisabet xx
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